Conditioning is not always a bad thing. The places where we get our conditioning are also the places where we need the other. We all need the interaction of the other in order for us to get the full flavor of what it is to be human.
The centers that are open are very seductive because they represent the unknown and the unknown is always more interesting to us than the known. So we spend most of our lives pursuing and trying to understand or “fix” the unknown. Because of the inconsistency of the open centers it can feel like this is something in us that needs to be fixed. When I say fixed I mean it in two ways. The first is that you try and fix what is broken and the second is that you want to fix it in terms of making it stable and consistent.

But as we now know the open centers are unstable, inconsistent, unreliable, and ever changing with the environment. The open centers bring us the opportunity to experience diversity in people places or things in our own unique way depending upon which centers in our designs are open. It is our interpretation of the experience of the diversity which can cause us discomfort.

The misunderstood desire to want something in our life to be fixed which cannot be fixed can cause pain and discomfort and lead us to think something is wrong with us. Accepting that this part of your life (the specific open center) is always and ever changing brings acceptance and self love. We get our lessons in life through the open centers. The more we face our discomfort and fears and understand these centers the wiser we become until eventually they don’t pull us out of our true nature anymore.